Diapers: A Father-Child Bond

“I’m pregnant”. As a soon-to-be father, those words made me feel both ecstatic and scared at the same time. My wife, obviously gleaming with joy on that day, can’t help to be excited on taking care of our first child. Thinking back about it, it was a rather funny memory. I really wasn’t scared on how to bring up our child or if we’ll encounter problems during the delivery. What bothered me the most when I heard those words were “diapers”.

I really wouldn’t want my wife to handle everything, nor would I want to spend on diaper services. I’d want to at least learn on how to change a baby’s diaper, no matter how scary and funny it may sound. So I did my research. I just didn’t expect that I’d get more than I bargained for.

In order to let my baby have the best comfort, I would have needed to know what diapers are. I do get that they’re meant to clothe babies and help them prevent messy accidents. But these little articles actually are more than meets the eye.

If diapers were to be grouped, there are basically two major types of diapers – disposable and non-disposable. Disposables can then be subdivided into two, absorbent or super-absorbent; while non-disposables are commonly made out of cloth. My wife, going for the old-fashioned train of thought, decided to go for the cloth variety. She believed that cloth diapering are more personal and offers a larger parent-child interaction.

Cloth diapers can also be subdivided. The four types that we’ve encountered were prefolds, AIOs/AI2s, pocket diapers and fitted diapers. We’ve used a combination of all, but I preferred using the prefold ones.

Prefolds are not only versatile – in terms of absorbing and long-lasting – but affordable as well. They do come in different sizes and weights. We stock up on different sizes to coincide with our baby’s growth.

The hard part was learning how to change and let our baby wear those diapers. Though I won’t go into detail on how to do those, (which my wife seems to do it with no trouble at all) I’d rather describe on how a bond was created with me and child.

It was messy and confusing at first, with her crying aloud. I didn’t know which way was up, or if I’m holding the right part of the diaper. My wife was laughing really hard watching me trying to fold the diaper.

I did eventually learn how to change, fold and fit the diaper on our baby. And eventually, our baby actually smiled and laughed while I did the once dreaded chore. I also did eventually find myself looking forward on changing my child’s diaper, and sharing those moments where we meet eye to eye, and have our short meaningful conversations (even though I’m the only one doing the talking).

Diapers may be a scary object for any father. Changing diapers may potentially be the messiest job any man may do. But with the time shared and spent with your child, you’ll probably end up doing – and looking forward to – it.